Often parents make the mistake of neglecting the older kid for the younger kid. Almost any family in the world has this problem. The older kid always feels left out and ‘’old’’. When a younger entrant comes into the family, the attention and affection of the parents automatically go to the younger one.
Later on as the older child becomes an adult, a lot of emotional distance develops. A single-most cause of wavering older children in the family is emotional distance between them and their parents. This emotional distance is started by the parents during the older child’s childhood years.
So how do parents deal with this? How do they make the older child understand that showing more affection toward the younger child does not mean more love towards the younger one?
Treating all children the same
Parity is a technique and an art of gifted parenting. If parents can learn to treat all their children on par, then they have created a well-knit family. They would have also created a family that stays together, and with no sibling rivalry.
Telling the older child how he/she was treated when young
Telling tales of how the older child was petted and handled affectionately when he or she was a child will make the older child understand that petting stops at a certain age. And that is the rule of life. The older child will understand that reconcile to this fact.
Maintaining an emotional bond
Parents need to always be the first one to back the older child, and maintain an emotional link.