In recent years the societal stigma usually attached to adopted children has lessened greatly. However, while it may be more commonplace to discuss adoption and adopted children, the pressures and questions that an adopted child has remained the same.
In this day and age, most adopted children are told they were adopted at a fairly early age. This is to accustom them to the fact and to make sure they do not have a sudden jolt later in their life. But even with growing up with the facts, there are many facets that have to be dealt with. Adopted children may feel a sense of abandonment by their birth family and feel they are different from the rest of their family. This can be especially true if they were adopted later in childhood. Many of these children came from abusive homes and have low self-esteem. The first stages of adoption can prove difficult and it is wise for the adoptive parents to be able to cope accordingly. Along with the adoptive parent resources available to them in their community, parents should access websites such as planningfamily.com that can help them deal with the issues at hand. Most of these feelings of abandonment and questions about their family are normal for any child, but more so for adopted children. The most important aspect is to allow your adopted child to discuss the questions they have and to be able to speak openly about them without fear.
Regardless of the adoptive circumstance, at some point in time most adopted children will have questions about their birth circumstances and more specifically their birth parents. Whether this is for health reasons later in life or psychological reasons at any point in their life, questions regarding family history do arise. Just as a natural birth parent, the task for adoptive parents is to maintain an open line of communication and to help their adoptive child cope, regardless of the situation.